Writeia

I’m on the verge of turning 30. Over the past decade, I’ve done a bit of everything—jumping between jobs, trying different paths, having fun along the way. But if I’m honest, my biggest regret is not taking care of my health the way I should have. That’s something I’ve started working on consciously now. At 28, though, I find myself burned out and uncertain about what comes next. I don’t know what steps to take toward a life that feels fulfilling. My parents think marriage is the answer. I don’t agree—not entirely. I feel the pull to marry, but not from necessity. The question “What next?” probably haunts most of us. Maybe that’s just human nature—to be unsatisfied, never quite “through” with anything. As I reach this point in my life, I realize that much of what I’ve experienced feels shallow compared to what I’ve learned. The last decade was mostly repetition: complaining about the state of the nation, the chaos in personal life, the same habits looping in a cycle. I didn’t really l...

I recognize the ghost that’s been haunting me. It’s been a few years—almost a decade, honestly—that I’ve lived by the mantra: "Do it fast, do it now." The fast and the now are what have been slowly burning me out. Right now, I’m reading Cal Newport’s new book, Slow Productivity , and a lot of it resonates with me. Living by that "do it fast, do it now" mindset, I’ve ended up making quick decisions without really thinking about where my priorities should lie. What Cal calls "pseudo-productivity" is exactly what I’ve been doing. And it's taking a toll. The result? Low-value output that I keep churning out. This blog is a good example too — I wanted to blog daily to gather views, but now I realize this is just as much about me needing a place to let out my feelings and emotions as it is about making new connections with people around the world. That old mantra has summoned an unfortunate guest — a phantom that lives at the back of my mind, pushing m...